“Do you suppose she is a Wildflower?” said the Daisy. “We don’t let Wildflowers grow here, independent minds and wild hearts are not encouraged.” Adventures of Alice in Wonderland
Have you ever thought about yourself as a wildflower? And which one would you like to be or which one do you compare yourself with?
In fact, it doesn’t matter which wildflower you choose as we can learn from all of them. We often might have an idyllic view of the wildflower as a carefree something- wild, untamed, and beautiful. But the wildflower is so much more. I hope you will join me in this journey into the world of wildflowers and what they teach us about life.
1.Wildflowers bloom where they are planted
‘I hope you are blessed
with a heart like a wildflower.
Strong enough to rise again
after being trampled upon,
tough enough to weather
the worst of the summer storms,
and able to grow and flourish
even in the most broken places.’
Wildflowers can’t rely on a gardener to pick them up and replant them when the conditions aren’t right. They can’t wait for someone to water them when they’re feeling thirsty or to add some compost when they’re hungry. Wherever you might live, in the city or in the countryside, I suppose you’ll see wildflowers around you. Wildflower always find ways to grow; in bare soil, or through cracks in concrete and even in tough conditions like the side of the highway.
We also have to learn to accept the place where we are planted. That can be a tough place to be; maybe a broken marriage, or having lost a dear friend, suffering from an illness, misunderstandings with our children, in a home we don’t like to live because of a bothersome neighbourhood. I try to think about these broken places where we are planted as opportunities to learn and to grow. But therefore we need to be brave, have patience, be kind to ourselves and be resilient.
2. Wildflowers delight in simple pleasures
Wildflowers mostly don’t require rich soil or expensive fertilisers, or constant watering. They are happy with a day of sunshine and a rainy day.
We might think we need many things to be happy, to finally feel fulfilled. We convince ourselves that we need so much to be happy but the opposite is true! I think we would be much happier when having and wanting less. Feeling the sun on our face, holding hands with our beloved ones, making pizza at home, a meal shared with friends, drinking a cup of tea first thing in the morning, playing a board game with our kids, enjoying a good book, candlelight, … these are things that will really give us joy and happiness.
Just like wildflowers grow seasonally, we can live on a seasonal rhythm by enjoying seasonal pleasures. Waiting for the first strawberries in spring, picking wildflowers in summer during a walk in the fields, harvesting apples in an orchard and making our own compote, making walks on a wintry and snowy day. Nature offers us so much for free, season in and season out.
3. Wildflowers celebrate their natural beauty and open up
Wildflowers come in all colors, shapes and sizes. Each one is different and need a certain environment that help them to grow best. We also have our own uniqueness. We are all created differently but so beautifully. And it’s quite easy to fall in the trap of comparison and eventually jealousy (think about the influence of social media). We are beautiful not only because of our appearance, but because of the light in our heart, our special gifts, our service and our unique story.
A cornflower isn’t better than a poppy. All the wildflowers offer different benefits both therapeutic and visual. Comparing or generalising wildflowers will yield the same poor harvest as comparing and generalising people. It’s no use to do this. We are all needed in this world and are useful in the place where we bloom.
4. Wildflowers spread seeds of joy!
‘Let’s be wildflowers,
let our souls be scattered by the wind.
Let us grow, wild and free,
tall and brave,
in the places that we dream,
in the places where our longings are filled.
Let us grow between the cracks of brokenness,
and we will make everything beautiful.’
Wildflowers are considered beautiful because their representation, location and circumstances place them in a strong position to command our attention. Who can resist stopping by at a field of red poppies? Or who can resist picking some Queen Anne’s lace to make a lovely bouquet? Who can resist smelling at the blooming valerian?
Wildflowers teach us to give attention to beauty, to share beauty in this world. Wildflowers bloom untamed and wildly and produce seeds so next year they’ll be there again!
What about this poppy, which only blooms for a couple of days and then her delicate red petals cover the ground in red. But its small seedpod will provide a field of joy next year!
We may also share our passions, our gifts to make this world a more beautiful place. You’ll never know where the wind will scatter the seeds but every seed will eventually become a flower. So even though we feel unable or the situation is hopeless, something good and beautiful will come out in the end!
‘May your life be like a wildflower, growing freely in the beauty and joy of each day.’
Native American proverb